When God was creating the world, each day He looked and saw that it was good. But, when He looked at Adam in the garden of Eden He said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him."
Here is Adam: perfect, sinless, in a perfect environment, with a perfect relationship with the Father and yet, God says, "It is not good for man to be alone."
Wow, that just blows me away to realize how very much my heart needs other people. Even if everything around me were perfect and there was no sin in me or the world around me, God still created me to be in relationship with others. His design was for me to be in family and to have friends and to relate and communicate and reveal my heart to others. God wanted it this way from the beginning.
In our Christian culture we are sometimes taught that me plus God equals enough. But God says, "It is not good for man to be alone." And God says in Proverbs, "An unfriendly man pursues selfish ends; he defies all sound judgment." When I am going my own way, I am generally unfriendly. I don't have time for you or your troubles; I've got my own, thank you very much. However, the end result is that I isolate myself and leave myself friendless. I think I am doing something that is going to benefit me, but in the end I am hurting myself.
When all I hear are the voices inside my own head, then I get a little crazy. I get anxious, afraid, and irrational. I need people around me that I can talk to and trust. I need people that I can be real with and admit how bad things may be. I need people who are not afraid to speak truth to me, even when it may not be an easy task.
One of my favorite verses that speaks about this need is Hebrews 3:13,"But encourage one another daily as long as it is called Today, so that none of you may be hardened by sins deceitfulness." I need the encouragement of others every single day (not just Sunday mornings) if I am going to stand a chance against sin in my life. I have blind spots. I have weaknesses. I have patterns that need to be challenged. Sin is deceitful...it doesn't always look like sin to me. Sometimes it can look like an oasis or haven from my troubles. Thankfully, I have friends who can see things I may not see.
We all need friends: those who will be there in the tough times, laugh with us in the good times, pray for us, keep our confidences. If you've got a friend like this, give a shout out in the comments and forward this blog to them.